Even if we lived in a state where choosing death is an option, Mummy would have to possess the mental capacity to make this crucial decision and then personally carry it out. *Photo Purchased From i Stock Photo Tagged as: aging, aging parents, Alzheimer's blog, Alzheimer's disease, care giving, caregiver, cognitive abilities, cognitive function, Dating Dementia, dementia, elderly, end of life, end of life decisions, how to die, older adult, older parents, sandwich generation I feel the same way you do and I do believe in God, I just do not understand why he would let people live in this horrible state, it is emotionally and financially draining on their family.Sadly, she is far beyond the point of making any decisions, especially the choice to end her own life. She doesn’t have a lot of money and my Dad passed last year he left a little but NOT enough to afford her nursing home and she had to go because she was not taking care of herself.I call my mom frequently to see how he’s doing and she says “great! I’ll immediately call my father and he’ll give me the honest real truth and say “he’s only got a few days.” I haven’t talked to my mother in a week because I feel like she is lying to me and not keeping me in the loop. I cared for my mum day in day out for 14 years ( Alzheimer’s) and in the last 2 years I increasingly became more angry and resentful towards her .I asked her if they would give him a feeding tube if it got to that point and she screamed at me and basically told me to stay out of it. Hi, my mother in law has vascular dementia, having had a couple of strokes a few years ago.. People keep saying what a wonderful job I did,but I know I didn’t and feel ashamed of myself for shouting at her towards the very final stages of her life.Instead of a magical cure, I pray for an end to my mother’s life. Ironically, Mummy, as her family often calls her, is in remarkable physical health.
Time and again she told my sisters and me that she did not want to continue living if she had advanced memory loss. Although I’ve seriously pondered it, there is no legal way for me to help my mother die.While Mummy may not have major physical ailments, there is no doubt that she is suffering terrible mental anguish.Alzheimer’s has wiped away most of her brain, including her memories, personality and ability to communicate.She is entering the latter stages of dementia and has already lost so much cognitive ability.Even with all the research and focus on Alzheimer’s, there is no cure and not even effective treatment or drugs that will slow the progression of this elusive disease.